Recovering from Depression and Anxiety

One of the most common causes of persistent challenges with depression and/or anxiety is unresolved childhood issues. This can be the trauma of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse as well as the experience of growing up in a home with a parent who had significant issues of his or her own. A parent who is depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, abuses substances, is self-involved or overly controlling can also create depression and anxiety in his or her children.

Many people who grew up in homes with these challenges grow up to struggle with depression throughout their lives. Often they are at risk for developing partnerships with people who are like their parents. This is because they are psychologically motivated not to see behavior of others as problematic. They blame themselves when others fail them. Sometimes this is so significant that they donít recall their parents as difficult. None-the-less the problems persist. If you recognize some of the following characteristics, working on your childhood issues may really help relieve some of your depression and anxiety.

  1. Taking responsibility whenever something doesnít go well
  2. Excessive apologizing
  3. Highly sensitive to feelings of others
  4. Difficulty recognizing your own feelings or lying in order to minimize feelings
  5. Difficulty expressing feelings and opinions
  6. Difficulty asking for things or help
  7. Excessively putting other people ahead of yourself
  8. Perfectionist expectations of yourself while expecting little from others
  9. Unexpressed disappointment in others
  10. Desire to meet the needs of others seamlessly

Wish that others would read your mind and give you what you want without having to ask If this sounds like you or someone you know, working on childhood issues can really help. This can take a significant amount of time and requires a good bit of courage, but you donít have to do it all alone. You can begin your journey toward recognizing your own needs and asking for help by seeking psychotherapy.